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Sunday 28 October 2018

Accepting But Letting Go Of The Past

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I am one of those people that gets on with their daily life and moments from the past very randomly pop into my head. 99% of the time, they're not good memories and they can really get me down. I then start questioning 'what if?' and brainstorm many ways on how I could've done things differently. 

Why didn't I break up with my ex sooner? Why didn't I listen to my best friends and families advice? What if I stayed in that job? I would've had my new car by now. 
I wish I saw my nan again before she passed.
What if I stayed at college?
I wish I never done that, what if I would've done this instead?
Honestly, it's ridiculous what kind of things run through my head. It has taken me so bloody long to actually accept the past and I'm sure so many other people can relate. Some things are harder to let go than others and that's completely normal.

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how to accept the past

The most important part of letting go of the past is understanding your past. You need to answer those questions and what ifs. It won't happen overnight but every time these thoughts pop into your head, answer them. Eventually, you'll understand your past, and then you can accept to let go.
What happened in the past were experiences and a part of life. Basically, you wouldn't be where you are now if it weren't for your past.

You can then start looking forward to your future. Write down your achievements and set goals for yourself and just focus on these. The new year is coming up really soon which is perfect for this.
The most important thing I've understood is that I've lived to experience these adventures. Nobodys perfect and I won't let my past define me. I've set goals for the near future which I'm very much looking forward to. And most of all, I'm grateful.

btw, this pumpkin was super heavy! 

22 comments :

  1. Love this post! All about the self love girl! x

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  2. Really enjoyed reading this post, really well written. Love your pictures too! 💜✨

    With love, Alisha Valerie x

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  3. Great honest post and so true, what a great little reminder to us all.

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    1. You've just got to keep reminding yourself :) x

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  4. You look so pretty! Beautiful smile!
    xoxo
    Lara

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  5. Lovely post and great photos! And so true - what happened in the past stays in the past, and its what you do now that matters!
    Sarah X

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  6. You are sooo right!
    well said!

    Federica
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  7. You look amazing. It's always good to focus on present and future.

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  8. Love the honesty in this post. It's definitely important to accept the past and focus on the present; the future. I come from a Fijian Indian family and didn't make it through University, started thinking of money rather then achievement and got pregnant before I even got married. Heck, my family didn't even know I had a boyfriend (big NO NO). Fast forward two years later, I'm married, worked full time and balanced full time studies (I'm on my final semester) and a full time mum. I look back sometimes to the days before but there's nothing I can do but accept and move on.
    Rachael Latchman | Rachael Latchman Diaries

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    1. Wow thank you for sharing your story Rachael, that's amazing!! You can only change things yourself. Congratulations for getting to your final semester! I can't imagine the hard work you're putting in with your studies, career and being a full time mummy! Yes exactly, you can't change the past so why worry about it? Move ahead and look forward and plan for the future xxx

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  9. This is such a honest post - and some of the things you've mentioned I also think about myself!
    I loved reading this, thank you for writing it x

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    1. Aw thank you Katrina, you're welcome! I'm glad it's not just me xx

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  10. I loved this post! I do the exact same thing! You are so right with what you said though, they are all parts of your life! They shape the person you are today as well. I have had to really work on this lately myself! It's nice to see I'm not the only one!xxxx

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    1. Aww thank you Ella! Exactly! Who would you be today if your past didn't happen?x

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  11. Letting go of the past can be so hard, but like you sad: understanding it to let it go is so important! x

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    1. It really is. I do sometimes struggle still but if you keep reminding yourself, it gets so much easier x

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