Accepting But Letting Go Of The Past

I am one of those people that gets on with their daily life and moments from the past very randomly pop into my head. 99% of the time, they're not good memories and they can really get me down. I then start questioning 'what if?' and brainstorm many ways on how I could've done things differently. 

Why didn't I break up with my ex sooner? Why didn't I listen to my best friends and families advice? What if I stayed in that job? I would've had my new car by now. 

I wish I saw my nan again before she passed.
What if I stayed at college?

I wish I never done that, what if I would've done this instead?
Honestly, it's ridiculous what kind of things run through my head. It has taken me so bloody long to actually accept the past and I'm sure so many other people can relate. Some things are harder to let go than others and that's completely normal.

The most important part of letting go of the past is understanding your past. You need to answer those questions and what ifs. It won't happen overnight but every time these thoughts pop into your head, answer them. Eventually, you'll understand your past, and then you can accept to let go.
What happened in the past were experiences and a part of life. Basically, you wouldn't be where you are now if it weren't for your past.

You can then start looking forward to your future. Write down your achievements and set goals for yourself and just focus on these. The new year is coming up really soon which is perfect for this.
The most important thing I've understood is that I've lived to experience these adventures. Nobodys perfect and I won't let my past define me. I've set goals for the near future which I'm very much looking forward to. And most of all, I'm grateful.

btw, this pumpkin was super heavy! 

How I Know He's The 'One'

A lot of people say that you'll just know when you meet 'the one' and I can't agree any more with that saying! Growing up, I have always wanted to get married and have kids and just have that perfect family. After being in a few relationships, I knew whether or not I wanted kids with them and whether I wanted to spend the rest of my life with them or not. But in the current relationship I'm in now, I'd definitely love to marry him and have kids. I really think he's the one.

Trusting eachother

Don't let yours or their past stop you from having trust in your relationship. What happened in past relationships doesn't matter. You're focusing on the present and future now, not having trust in your relationship can stop you both from moving forward. 

The occasional arguments

Every single relationship have arguments. If you don't have arguments, are you even in a serious relationship? I always find that your relationship is stronger after an argument, no matter how stupid or serious the row was. We always tend to end up laughing about the five minute most ridiculous argument afterwards.

When he's supportive af!

I've never been with anyone that's been this supportive of me as Liam is. We've been through everything together that you can imagine. Going through my anxiety problems, losing my uncle and other life problems that happened right when we got together, he's truly been amazing.

Laughing till you can't breathe

I have such a great sense of humour anyway, but being with someone that also has a great sense of humour is EVEN better! If I've had a bad day at work or if I'm feeling down, Liam never fails to make me laugh. We laugh about the most random things too. We even have our own inside jokes, (currrryyyyy, Liam, that was for you). Even if I wake up at 4am, Liam wakes up too and we still laugh somehow.

He still gives you butterflies

The way he kisses me, the way he makes me breakfast in bed, those random date nights, walking around the park hand in hand, cute text messages, certain ways he look at me. Just silly little things. I always thought the butterflies would eventually go away after time. Obviously, I was wrong.

The sex is still amazing

I don't think I've ever written about sex on my blog, not even the word 'sex'. It feels weird just typing it, lol. Sex sex sex sex. If the sex is still amazing as it was the first time you done it and you're not getting bored, then that's incredible!

Absence makes the heart grow fonder
Growing up, I have completely understood this saying more and more. Liam recently left me for two weeks to go abroad on holiday with his family, and as much as I missed him, he weren't gone for that long and I can't even explain the feeling I felt when he got back. It's not healthy to be with eachother 24/7 in your relationship. It's nice to have some time apart and look forward to seeing eachother when the time comes.

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